Drive your man crazy

This year for the holidays drive your man crazy,

Dear Santa.....

it’s time you put a little festive cheer into your light bondage play. If you want to add some color to bondage play, enjoy using this Plush Cuff Set. This set, with a holiday theme, includes everything you need. The set includes a pair of handcuffs, a pair of leg cuffs, a Santa’s hat and blindfold. So not only will your partner be under your control, but they will be stylish.

The cuffs are tethered by a chain and clip for easy adjustment. They use a Velcro closure for a comfortable fit on the wrists and legs.

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Breasts--We've Got 'Em

Breasts

Boobs

Tatas

Tits

Hooters

Delectable

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More Docs Review by JBRoper

DOCS REVIEW BY JBROPER

Loved the background and the lighting quite a bit. The building provided lots of options. The camera angles were great as always. You really do have a knack at angles and editing that most bondage producers don’t have. I also loved the first glimpse of the Cannibal. The first grab of the girl was impressive, it was very quick and pure mainstream quality.

Also, the models were very attractive, especially the main model. (love the red fingernails too). Had to turn the sound down a bit, because the constant screaming might make my neighbor wonder.

Keep up the good work JB

JBROPER.COM

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Great review of Bottoms Up: Spanking Good Stories at Feminist Review

I love this review by Lesley Kartali of Bottoms Up: Spanking Good Stories at Feminist Review:

There is an even mix of stories representing different perspectives: giving, receiving, fantasizing, and watching spanking. The majority of stories comprise male/female partnerships, though there are a few involving queer characters. Since openly male authors in this genre are apparently uncommon, this particular collection has mostly male authors.

One of the things I liked most is that many of the stories felt real in the sense that the characters were often experiencing the conflicting feelings of arousal, confusion, and guilt that often come with having a fetish. The sensation of pleasure mixed with pain is a major theme and, of course, is pretty much the basic idea of BDSM. The character in “Ass Worship,” for instance, is drawn to experiment with being spanked. He has many questions about it and is extremely nervous at first, unsure if he can actually go through with it.

Many of the stories involve a person’s first time being spanked or spanking someone else. Others involve such exciting and sometimes amusing subjects as swingers, Renaissance Fair fantasies, church frolicking, and (in the editor’s piece) a spanking machine. My very favorite story, “I’m Going to Grab Your Hair,” is written as though the author (and spanker) is “dirty talking” to the reader (and spankee). It is rough and nasty and thrilling. I’d never read an erotica piece in quite that style before.

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The top drop

About two weeks ago, the boyfriend and I went to a party again, at the same location as last time. We had a good time, played a little (there were ice cubes between my boob and my shirt and he put a chain between my nipple-piercings, poor nipples), and although I felt submissive at times, I never was deeply subby.

Note: I have not been deeply subby in about two years. A few times I went quite deep when in play, and I did do service-like things, but that was not common and those feelings where relatively rare and short-lived. So, it is not strange that it does not happen to me now, especially because we do not play that often and we both have some problems getting into our ‘roles’ and maintaining them.

So, everything went fine, until he asked me, out of nowhere, to kneel and kiss his boots. I was caught off guard, so my primal response was “No!”. For something like that I need to feel some level of subby-ness, and at that moment that was completely absent, because a little thing with the chained nipples had not gone well a few minutes before. The small issue had been solved, but I was still a bit grumpy (I do need a lot of reassurance when something goes wrong, even when it’s not a very big deal, I blame the asshole ex). My negative answer immediately made the boyfriend doubt himself, completely dropping out of his dominant state of mind that he had been in before. We left soon after, because we had both lost the mood to play or party.

A top drop. The plummeting of emotions into the negative spectrum regarding dominant feelings. Sometimes it entails feeling bad about the stuff the dominant did after the scene, sometimes it happens during a scene. It is difficult to overcome the lessons learned by our society: you do not hit other people, especially not if they are women. Raping, humiliating, using another human being are all Very Bad Things, that Normal People Just Don’t Do. Doing bdsm as a dominant goes against all those lessons, and even though you know you’re doing them with a consenting adult, does not make the bad feelings go away. Also, a top drop can be what the boyfriend experienced: a sudden doubt of the own capabilities as a dominant. Sometimes this follows the feelings as described above, but it can also stand on itself, like in our situation.

I’m not completely sure how to best deal with a partner with a top drop, it depends on how the partners ‘work’ with each other; some might want more physical reassurance (cuddling!) while some need some distant, while others want to talk about it immediately. The boyfriend and me talked about it when sitting in the car, I told him about the term, which helped him a bit, because labelling something shows that others have it too, which usually helps in accepting and moving on. Open communication is the best advise I can give here. As a submissive: tell your dominant you like the things he/she does to you, that it makes you feel good. As a dominant: ask your submissive for his/her feedback, and be open about your feelings.

After all, everyone is human and needs reassurance every once in a while, especially when you’re doing Very Bad Things which also happen to be Very Nice.

Disclaimer: this is all written from personal experience or stories from other. I have not done research on this, although that would be a nice to do. Too bad I would probably not get funds for it…

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Headaches

I get these killer tension headaches. They start low, at the base of my skull and wind their way up across the top of my head. Sometimes I can catch them early and a few well swallowed Excedrin help keep the worst of it away.  I am the first to admit that I have a very stressful life. Between work, school, the husband, children and everything else, I am surprised I haven’t had an aneurysm. Suffice it to say, there is no question as to why they rip through me on a daily basis.

Here’s a little bit of interesting physiological information. “A range of theories exists as to the etiology and attraction of BDSM (APA, 2000; Masters et al., 1995; Weinberg, 1995). Clinical and lay views on the practice of BDSM range from its being a form of normal, healthy sexuality, to being reflective of issues related to vulnerability and intimacy, to its being synonymous with mental illness.” (http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_go1613/is_1_15/ai_n29248689/pg_2/?tag=content;col1) There is a fine line between the pain and pleasure centers in the brain. When a person has an abnormally high threshold of pain, it is fairly easy for the release of endorphins to be interpreted by the body as pleasurable even when those endorphins are released as a pain response in the body.

Here’s the thing… for me the massive release of endorphins not only lessens my headaches, but obliterates them, often for days. I have been told I have a high pain threshold. Never having experienced anything else, I can’t tell you if there is truth in that statement. Strangely enough, I’m not a fan of pain. Yes my body responds to it, revels in it in fact, but the physical sensation of pain has never excited me. It is that moment after the pain is inflicted that my body swoons into blissful oblivion. When pain and pleasure are mixed together I go sailing off the edge of the cliff and absolutely nothing on this planet can equal the wonderfully safe and comfortable feeling I experience in that moment.

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I Want Him To Dominate Me

In the absence of that ideal lover I dream of in my fantasies, I want my own husband to dominate me. I want him to take charge and be the kind of man who knows what he wants, who is confident of himself, who knows precisely what he wants and how he’s going to get it. I want him to be the kind of man who is in control of his life and his destiny, and a man who can possess my own life and dictate it. At least behind the bedroom doors for now.

I want a man’s man. A man who knows where he’s heading, knows where he wants to be in five years’ time. A man who leads, who chases after goals, who knows how a man should be and how a woman should be in his presence. A man who does not dice words. A man of few words, in fact, but plenty of action. I want a man who is braver than me, stronger than me, more willful than me. A man I can respect and fear.

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