AS my husband wrote his thoughts on being in a Dom/Domme marriage in his blog, I realized it had been a little while since I have written anything in mine. He suggested I write my thoughts on the same subject, from my perspective. I thought it a pretty good idea, since I haven’t really touched on it yet and probably should.
When I got involved with my husband and then married him, he had already been in a couple of relationships with D/s dynamics in them. I, on the other hand, hadn’t done anything kinky in a long time.
After we had been married a bit, There were thoughts entertained by both of us for play with each other. Other than an occasional playful spanking, the idea of him topping me, really didn’t do much for me. He has accepted that. On the other side of it, while he has on a couple occasions allowed me to indulge in some impact play on him, he was quick to know it didn’t do anything for him. What he did get out of though was an appreciation for the bottom side of it. I have totally accepted this.
With these realizations, both of us have become very comfortable with the other having other partners for BDSM play/relationships. This has perplexed some people in the life who come accross us and learn this about my husband and I.
Along with not playing with each other, we don’t share playmates. I’m not going to speak for him why he doesn’t. For me it’s simply because, I guess you can say I’m selfish. I want him or her all to myself.
By the way, us going to others for our deviant fun, has not been harmful to our relationship. We are as strong as ever. A little surprisingly, we even have good conversations about what we are doing and even sometimes get/bounce ideas off each other. We are truly happy and supportive for each other.
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